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Feedback thoughts

Today, people feel the need to constantly be giving feedback to one another. While this can often be a good thing, it can also be a negative thing. Good feedback would be constructive criticism, while bad feedback is just criticism. As a college student, I receive and give both forms of feedback. For me, I like constructive criticism. It may not make me feel good right away, but I generally take it well and try to improve. The thing I do not like, which is what I receive more than than good feedback is straight up criticism. This criticism is mostly about material things like the clothes we wear to the things we say. I cannot put full blame on everyone else though, because I even criticize people even when I am not meaning to. It is something we all need to be more aware of because criticism hurts. 

One of the articles that I read was titled "Why Rejection Hurts so Much," which talked about how the feelings behind rejection are mostly caused by ourselves. Personally, I hate rejection. The article talked about how there are large scale rejections like getting fired from a job, but also small scale rejections like someone not responding to a text. For me, the small scale rejections are much more damaging because of how often they occur. I overthink anything and everything, so when someone does not respond to me or says something that has multiple meanings, I go into a panic. What did I do? What did I say? Thankfully, as I have gotten older I have learned how to talk myself down and understand that it is not about me. There are still times however where I will make myself go crazy thinking about something that should not matter as much in the overall scheme of things. 


The article "Silence the Critical Voices in Your Head" bounces of the idea of how I make myself feel after rejection. Anytime I go into this panic mode, all I can hear are voices telling me that it is all my fault. They tell me I am annoying, too loud, not attractive, dumb, and countless other things. The constant negative thoughts crossing through my head take a toll of my mental health. This article talks about how if you rewire your brain to start thinking of the positives during these times, then it can help. I can attest to this because I have done this. Talking yourself up is the best way to reverse those feelings and help you live a life for yourself, and not for other people. 


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